Very well put John,
It IS intriguing to find differences that please, and then other differences that please us again. I have been doing that for most of the time in audio. Whether it is our mood, or the way the music was mixed, or anything else we can come up with, it is just the act of getting the 'blend' just right for the moment. It may be as easy as setting the volume to just the right level. Or taking the spark plug wire off of the neighbor kids dirt bike. Either way, you have the nirvana you seek.
And to you(Eric?, I forgot) long lost 'bro', yep, it's ok not to fit in. Just look at the 'regular' crowd anyways. Not exactly impressive. So long lost, but kinda like the prodical son I never liked, you have returned. hmmm, kind of a left handed compliment, but anywaaaay...