As for the tubes, some glow more than others and definitely, the tubes in guitar amps are being driven, typically, beyond their limits.
Grid stoppers are usually carbon comp as they have very low inductance and they are there to prevent hf oscillation, but yes, metal films will work, and also Rikens can be a good choice.
A friend was recently working on a pair of huge 211 monoblocks (now there's some glowing tubes!) and the driver tubes were oscillating badly, and when he inspected the circuit board, he found that there was a carbon comp resistor alright, but spaced more than an inch from the tube socket, so, two soler joints instead of one, an inch of PCB trace and the result was a completely ineffective grid stopper. He soldered a new carbon comp resistor to the tube socket pin directly and that stopped the oscillating. Not sure what the driver tube in questin was, but sure it has a fairly high mu like the 12at7.
On the other hand, with the 12au7 in the crack, the mu is low enough that a grid stopper is not required.
Not the best or most complete explanation, but it makes the point.
-- Jim
Jim Rebman -- recovering audiophile
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