I have been living with subs since the 70s. I like them and they drive me crazy. Here is why:
The rated response of your speakers will not be what is achieved in your room, unless you listen in an auditorium. What is achieved in your room will be a higher roll off frequency. So you will need to work with the crossover frequency, level, phase, speaker positions to achieve a smooth frequency response.
I don't know that THX standards (for movies) are applicable to a system where your main speakers might respond below 80 Hz the result will be a bloom of bass in the region between 80 Hz and where your speakers actually do start to roll off.
Then there is the matter of your speakers' roll off slope. If it is a gentle slope there will be little more bass energy present when the sub adds to it below the roll off frequency. If your speakers roll off steeply and the sub is a less steep roll off then there will be a bit of a hole where they crossover. Neither are that offensive, you get to decide. So I agree, crossover the sub as low as possible without a bloom or hole. That is right, just not as simple as they state it.
I like to place the subs at the plane of the main speakers. If you find the sub is slower than the main speaker, try it more forward. If the subs are too aggressive, seem to play before the mains move them back. This is assuming they are in phase with the main speakers. That is the sub and the main woofers move forward at the same time. (Sorry if that is insulting, it isn't meant to be.)
Even a cheap spectrum analyzer is a help. If a friend has one get him to come over drink beer and show you how it works.
I use a sub and a year after I had it "set up" I discovered a hole in the response and had to increase the crossover frequency. It is a process.
Enjoy the trip.