Eric,
I just saw this.
I have a leg up here (I think?). I have to trim the sub woofer level, not crossover, for balance with the Orcas. It needed trimming, lowering the volume and it still was 1970's fluffy (not a bad thing back then!). I am crossing over higher than you, about 120 Hz.
Well, you know, different strokes... and we all have different systems, listening habits and ears/brains.
I just fed it from my Proceed PCD, ca. 1990. I don't have a higher resolution source. Maybe that would have made some difference? I can't get upsampled digital data out of my SACD, it upsamples.
Maybe it is the nature of my sub versus yours?