...The imbalance of the left and right channel at low volume is frustrating (especially when you was to listen after the kids go to bed). ... I saw that Bottlehead used to offer the Sweetest Whispers. Do they still offer that pot in a kit form?
This is a common problem with stereo pots. To get really decent matching at when the pot is turned way down you have to spend really big bucks. So much in fact that you might as well go for a switched attenuator, which probably sounds better as well.
On the original Foreplay, two mono pots were used. We got lots of complaints over the years about that too! With FP-III we stepped up to switched attenuators, but the switches that were affordable were only available in mono, so we had to stick with that. That is the Sweetest Whispers, which I'm pretty sure is available but you'd need another hole to mount the second mono control.
For the SEX amp, where the control is usually in the upper half of the range, balance is OK and we used a stereo pot. That pot got re-used for Quickie, and it will be used in the Stereomour as well.